Mrs Carolyn Elizabeth Cato


Carolyn was born in Hull in August 1970 and enjoyed a traditional childhood in Yorkshire with her dear mum Olga, dad Pete, and her very close Auntie Freda. She regularly laughed about and spoke very fondly of her childhood memories. 


Carolyn joined Barclays Bank in 1988, where she continued to loyally work. It was there where she first met her husband Guy in 1989. They became instant friends on meeting and they inevitably became a couple in 1990… at the office Christmas party!

Carolyn and Guy married in York in October 1998.

 In 2000 Carolyn and Guy left their Yorkshire roots, relocating to Essex when their careers brought them both to London. Despite Carolyn’s initial reluctance to leave Yorkshire, she quickly settled into life ‘down South’ making many very close friends in both her professional and personal life. Essex very much became Carolyn’s home, although she remained a ‘Yorkshire lass’ at heart.

 In November 2006 Carolyn became a mum when her beloved daughter Isabel was born. This was Carolyn’s proudest moment and, since then, Carolyn put everything into always trying to be the best mum possible to Isabel. As anyone who knew Carolyn well will recognise, she was immensely proud of Isabel and her achievements, and the young lady she has become. 

 Carolyn loved the outdoors, with many holidays spent hiking and trekking up mountains. She also loved Disney World and had lost count of the trips she, Guy and Isabel had enjoyed there together. In 2014 Carolyn found her ‘special place’ on the Suffolk coast and some of Guy and Isabel’s most treasured memories are from the time they all spent there. She doted on her pet dogs, first Charlie and more recently Daisy and Stanley. And, of course, Carolyn also loved to socialise with her many close friends and enjoyed nothing more than sharing a bottle or two of bubbly with them.

 Carolyn will be dearly missed by Guy and Isabel, but also by the many friends and loved ones she was lucky to share her life with. The thoughts and memories that have been shared by them since her recent passing have a recurring theme: a fun loving ‘Yorkshire lass’ with a wicked sense of humour; a true friend and confidant who always had time for others; and a devoted wife and mum who lived for her family. She will leave a void in many people’s lives.


Carolyn, Guy and Isabel have been supported by the amazing team at St Helena Hospice in Colchester and they would be delighted if friends and family would consider making a donation to the hospice (instead of flowers), so that they can continue to provide their excellent support to other families going through similar challenges. This can be done using the link below. Thank-you for your generosity.

Charity details

St Helena Hospice Limited

Helping local people face incurable illness and bereavement, supporting them and their families, friends and carers.

We also support children and adults who are facing bereavement.

We reach out to members of our community, helping them make their own choices and live with dignity. By focusing on their physical, emotional and spiritual needs, we aim to bring comfort and relief to all those who need it, offering the people of North Essex individual care and total support, regardless of their diagnosis or personal circumstances.

We rely heavily on the help and generosity of our fundraisers, donors and volunteers. Without them we wouldn’t be here.

We all share a common goal: to be here every step of the way for everyone who needs us, helping life to go on in the face of dying, death and bereavement.

By visiting them in their homes, over the phone with our 24/7 advice line, through our day therapies, and at The Hospice, through all the smiles and all the tears we guide those who need us, because we believe in making every memory matter.

Our ambition: We want more people to have dignity and choice at end of life.

Our priorities: 

Reaching out based on need regardless of diagnosis or circumstances
Empowering people to plan ahead, share their choices and achieve their wishes
Providing excellent personalised care to more people in hospice beds and in the home
Helping life go on in the face of dying, death and bereavement

Registered Number 280919

Messages of condolence

Much love, Colin and Lindsay xx

Mr & Mrs Colin Martin

Carolyn you were a wonderful , gorgeous lady, friend, wife and mum inside and out. I will miss you so much. Rest in peace. Love you Dawnxx

Ms Dawn Manners

Bye bye for now

Gerald & Margaret

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Mr & Mrs G & M (Gerald & Margaret) Harding

With heartfelt condolences At this very sad time Debra Russell Xanthe & Sienna Foster

Mrs Foster Debra

Thinking of my brother Guy and niece Isabel at this sad time. Love from Leigh and Theresa X

Mr Leigh Cato

Dear Guy and Isabel, it was a privilege to have known Carolyn. Our thoughts are with you at this sad and difficult time. Nilmani, Julien, Mia and Sofia

Ms Nilmani Tilakapala

Carolyn will always be in my heart. She was a true genuine friend who I will continue to love dearly. Love and strength to Guy and Isobel xxx

Mrs Karen Hyde

Caroline was such a lovely friend with such a beautiful smile, cannot believe she was taken so soon. Guy and Isabel you are in our thoughts, Beckie and Dave xx

Mr Dave Scott

Remembering our dear fellow Yorkshire friend Auntie Carolyn. Lots of shenanigans and memories to make us smile but oh how you are missed already. We will take you, Guy & Isabel forward with us in our hearts and future times together. All our love and thoughts are with you all at this difficult sad time, Julie x Steve x Ruby x & Archie x

Mr & Mrs Julie & Steve Read

Carolyn will be sadly missed by all her colleagues past and present. My sincere condolences to Guy and Isobel


A very special friend that will be missed greatly. Thanks for all the fun times and so many memories. The lady with the big shone bright x

Mrs Lynda Johnson

In memory of Carolyn Cato. A special lady taken too soon.

Mr Steve Hanlon

Thinking of you at this very sad time. Helen Latham and family x

Mrs Helen Latham

Dear Guy and Isabel, Sue and I were deeply saddened to hear about the very sad passing of Carolyn and we are sorry for your loss. You are constantly in our thoughts at this difficult time and we are sending you our love and support your way. Alan and Sue Bayliss

Mr Alan Bayliss

Taken far to young but you have left a positive imprint on the world. Our thoughts are with Guy and Isabel .

Mr & Mrs Vincent White

With many fond memories of our times at Barclays. RIP Carolyn, May your bubbly personality shine down on us all. To your family especially Guy and Isabel you are in my thoughts. Much love Nicky Jenkins x

Ms Nicky Jenkins

Our thoughts are with you both. I shall miss my lovely friend, her kindness and her fabulous smile. Love Sophie, Rich and Ariella x

Mrs Sophie Kane

Dear Guy and Isabel, So very saddened to hear of Carolyn’s passing. She was a fantastic neighbour and friend, especially during the first days of our being new parents. Her care, kindness, empathy and understanding have always stayed in our lives. She certainly was a very special lady. Love to both of you today and always x

Mr & Mrs Alex Linton

Our dear friend Carolyn. So blessed to have had you in our lives, but for such too short a time. Your wit and humor, along with your devotion to Izzy and Guy will always be remembered. Sleep tight my friend x Su, Simon and Amy Lawrence x

Mr & Mrs Simon & Su Lawrence

Special memories of Carolyn Anne & Family

Mr & Mrs Anne & Stewart Hoad

Dear Guy and Isabel I am so sorry for your sad loss of a devoted wife and mum. I am so grateful to have been able to call Carolyn a great friend. A wonderful kind and caring lady. A true Yorkshire Diamond who will be missed by all. Take care Andy

Mr Andrew Sellars

To my dear friend Carolyn, thank you for the love and friendship we have shared with our girls over the past ten years. We will all miss you more than words can say but the lovely memories will stay with us forever. Sleep well my love, Judith, Graham, Olivia, Imogen and Amelia xxxxx

Mrs Judith secker

A friend I will never forget who bought much laughter and joy to my life. Such a loss to so many.

Ms Beth Cook

Dear Guy and Isabel, we were so very sorry to learn of Carolyn's illness and passing. Carolyn, as a fellow Yorkshire girl would light up the room with her infectious laugh, wide beaming smile and brimming with endless personality. A life well lived, certainly cut short, and leaving a void in many people's lives. Carolyn, thank you for your friendship and happy memories, I am sorry we didn't get to enjoy more time together. Isabel is your double and you and Guy can be rightly proud of her. Much love as always. Alison, Adrian, Hannah and Oliver Cook.

Mrs Alison Cook

So very sorry to hear this sad news, I worked with Carolyn in Leeds (I was Sue Butterfield back then) and she was a great friend at the time who I will remember with much love. Very best wishes to you Guy and Isabel xx

Mrs Sue Prescott

Thinking of you both at this sad time, Melanie x

Mrs Melanie Read

Carolyn will be deeply missed by us all. We were lucky enough to become friends through school. Carolyn will always be very special to us with memories we will never forget and conversations that will forever make me smile. Always a special place place in our hearts xxx

Mrs Susan Burden

Dear Carolyn, You were always a good sounding board for advice, a great laugh, and someone with whom I could exchange really honest thoughts. I will miss you greatly. Everyone who knew you was exceptionally fortunate to have you in their lives. Zara, Leo and I send our thoughts and deepest condolences to your wonderful family, who were truly the centre of your world. With much love and precious memories, Ruth xxxx

Ms Ruth Copperwaite

Thinking of you all Carolyn

Mrs Carolyn Foster

We are thinking of you and so very sorry for the loss of lovely Carolyn. With much love, Jenny, Chris, Emily and Hayley

Mrs Jenny Sandum

Dear Guy & Isabel, We are so very sorry to hear of your loss of a much loved wife and mother and, wish you both every strength in coping at this so difficult a time. We have so many happy memories of distant days at St Mary’s and Carolyn was always fantastic offering to help with the children. We wish you all the very best in the coming weeks and the future and are not far away if there is ever anything we can do to help. With our sincere condolences and best wishes, Pat & Will, Arabella, Sophie, Olivia & Charles Doe.

Mr & Mrs William/Patricia Doe

Our thoughts and prayers are with you both at this awful time Love Gareth, Chrissy and Isla

Mr Gareth Williams

In loving memory of a dear friend and neighbour who touched all of our lives, leaving behind memories that will stay with us forever and our lives are richer thanks to having known you xx

Mrs Natalie Dalton

Until we meet again my beautiful friend, keep the kettle brewed and the wine chilled. Missing you more than you’ll ever know. Sweet dreams. Lots of love Jo, Rob & Zak x x x

Mrs Joanne Malkin

Service details

Church Service

19 May, 2021 11:00

St. Barnabas

The Street, Great Tey, CO6 1JS

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