Mr Mark Anthony Stocker

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Mark was born on 13th February 1962 in Bexley and grew up there with his parents, Fred and Eleanor, and brothers Dave and Andy. He attended Chislehurst and Sidcup Grammar School and went on to study Mathematics at Wadham College, Oxford.

After graduating he started his actuarial training with Willis Faber before moving to Mercer Limited in 1987 where he worked for over 19 years and he and Michaela met. They were married in June 1990 and went on to have three sons, Ben, Dan and Louis.

Mark had a very successful career as an actuary, this was achieved through the dedication and hard work which Mark was well known for. He was very highly thought of with many long-term, as well as more recent, friends in the industry, working at a number of the leading consultancies and representing the Institute and Faculty of Actuaries as well as the International Actuarial Association. In the last few years, Mark had set up Pensions Actuary Services that he was passionate about and incredibly proud of.

Outside of work he was keen to keep his involvement in education and was a governor at Birchwood High School for 18 years and became the Chair 8 years ago. He took pride in this role and the achievements of the School. He was also a visiting lecturer on Actuarial Science at the University of East Anglia.

Many people will best remember Mark as a very outgoing and generous host who was always happy to be entertaining friends with Michaela.  On these occasions it was always clear how close the two of them were and what a brilliant team they made. Good times were always guaranteed, with many evening gatherings running into the small hours and not insignificant hangovers the next day providing proof of the same.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

He was a devoted family man and his pride in Michaela and his sons was very obvious. Friends will remember how he would always ask about your family and give you an update on how the boys were doing.

Mark had recently taken a step back from full time work but continued to put his knowledge and experience to good use as an expert witness and pension scheme advisor. This gave Mark and Michaela more time to enjoy their holiday home in Spain, and for Mark to keep his enviable tan going!Mark loved football and was a season ticket holder at West Ham which, with his no doubt gentle encouragement, turned into a family affair with many trips to see the Hammers. He was also a big music fan, with a surprising taste in Prog Rock and 80’s themed festivals.

Mark and Michaela became new grandparents two years ago when their son Ben and partner Danielle welcomed Dylan Mark Stocker, so Mark was able to spend some of his new-found freedom on babysitting duties.    

Sadly and unexpectedly, Mark was diagnosed with advanced cancer at the end of October which was a devastating blow for him and his family. His illness unfortunately progressed very quickly but he was able to remain at home in Michaela’s loving care and, with the help of St Clare Hospice, to spend his last days surrounded by his family.

Mark’s funeral service will take place on 1st February at Greenacres. Regrettably, due to current Covid restrictions this will take place with a small number of Mark’s family and friends, however, a celebration of Mark’s life will be held once restrictions have been fully lifted for everyone to come together to remember and celebrate Mark’s memory.

St Clare Hospice helped Mark in his last few days and allowed him to be comfortable surrounded by his close family. The Hospice work to provide compassionate care and support those facing a life-limiting diagnosis and their loved ones. Any donation, large or small, would mean so much to Mark’s family and others in similar situations.

Charity details

St Clare West Essex Hospice Care Trust

The work of St Clare is about helping those affected by life-limiting illnesses to have the best quality of life.

Registered Number 1063631

http://www.stclarehospice.org.uk

Messages of condolence

Mark was a good guy, with a big heart. He will be missed. My thoughts are with Michela and his family.

Mr Huw Davies

So sorry to learn of the passing of dear Mark and I am thinking of his family at this very sad time. I enjoyed working with Mark at Buck as he was such a lovely supportive boss. Liz

Miss Elizabeth Wylie

Totally shocked and saddened by Mark's passing. A thoroughly good bloke who I've known and respected for over 30 years.

Mr Paul Jayson

The Board of the AAE wants to express its deepest condolences on the passing away of Mark. Mark served as Chairperson of the AAE Education Committee between 2012 and 2018 and did this completely in line with his high-spirit character. He will truly be missed. Our hearths go out to his wife and sons, and his extensive 'network' of family and friends. The Board of the Actuarial Association of Europe (AAE).

Mrs Monique Schuilenburg

I was so saddened and stunned to read of Mark's passing,. He had an infectious smile, an ironic wit, and was generous with his knowledge. I will always appreciate the the time he spent as a colleague on the Regulation Board of the IFoA. Please accept my best wishes for great strength and comfort knowing he was so highly regarded. Marcia Cantor-Grable

Mrs Marcia Cantor-Grable

Mark was a remarkable man. Many actuaries in the IAA were fortunate to have known and worked with him. He contributed tremendously to the IAA and the actuarial profession globally. Mark remains recognized internationally and highly respected for his passionate work. The passing of Mark is a tragic and large loss to the international community. Sending our most heartfelt and deepest condolences to Michaela and family. Jan Kars, 2021 President, on behalf of the International Actuarial Association

International Actuarial Association

So terribly sad to hear of Mark's passing. I sat with Mark on the Regulation Board of the Institute of Actuaries and had known him for many years from our volunteering work at the Institute. He was a great pleasure to work with - funny, with a ready smile, he could always be relied upon for a witty remark. He will be greatly missed. My deepest condolences to his family.

Mrs Melanie Puri

So very sad to learn of Mark's passing. I have had the pleasure and privilege of working with Mark in some of his many roles for the Institute and Faculty of Actuaries, as well as the International Actuarial Association. Alongside his ever wise counsel and insight, he always brought a sense of fun to lighten even the most dry subject. He will be missed very much. My thoughts are with you, Michaela, at this sad time.

Mr Ben Kemp

The industry has lost one of its most respected, professional and amiable actuaries. Our thoughts and best wishes go to Michaela and his sons.

Mr Christian Hardy

I knew Mark for the few years that he worked at LCP. He was always a friendly face to talk to and we shared many stories of our families that we were both so proud of. May his memory be a blessing to all the family.

Mr Matthew Pearlman

Michaela my thoughts and prayers are with you and all the family at this very sad time. I knew and worked with Mark for well over 30 years sharing a passion for the education and development of actuaries in the UK and internationally. He will be much missed.

Mrs Jane Curtis

A great loss to the Pension industry . Always smiling always positive . I will miss his insight and positive outlook on life . My thoughts are with all his family and friends

Mr Dai Smith

Rest in peace Mark.

Mr Barry Mack

I’m so sorry to hear about your Dad Ben. Sending lots of love to you and your family Love from Laura

Miss Laura Clark

You'll be in my heart forever Mark, from your loving Mum

Mrs Eleanor Stocker

Mark was one of my favourite clients over the 15 years I knew him: a lovely, warm and very funny man who I'll miss greatly. My heart goes out to all his family and friends at this immensely difficult time.

Mr Iain Garfield

Mark was such a character and a great person to work with. I learnt so much from him while we worked together at Mercer (once I realised he wasn't scary, but actually a lot of fun!). Rest in peace.

Mrs Barbara-Ann Thompson

What a wonderful man with the biggest cheekiest smile, a very kind soul I have been able to call my friend for many years, so many fond memories made and lots of banter we have had along the way, you will not be forgotten, sleep tight lovely Mark xxx

Mrs Ashley Stonehouse

Sending our sympathies, prayers and love to Michaela and All the Stocker family at this sad time. Mark will be sadly missed. Lots of love Julia, Dan and Matthew xxx

Mrs Julia North

Our hearts and prayers go out to Michaela and family for the loss of Mark, a perfect gentleman, husband, father and grandfather. Love from Auntie Pattie, Uncle Peter and cousin Neil xxx

Mr & Mrs Peter, Patricia & Nei Edmunds

A good man, gone far too soon. Michaela, Dan, Ben and Louis are in our thoughts. Jo & Andrew

Mr Andrew Sherriff

Michaela and family, We were filled with sadness when we heard the news. Loved those days in Stansted Mountfichet with you all. Memories that can be cherished and never be replaced. Fantastic man, great fun and always welcoming. Thanks for letting us in to your lives so easily. Take care of yourself until we meet again, Sharron, Guy and Jim xx

Mr Guy Chalkley

Our deepest sympathy to all the family. Big hug to you Michaela. X

Mr & Mrs Sarah Cartwright

My deepest sympathy to Michaela and the family. Alongside working with Mark at both Mercer and BW, I enjoyed a number of beers with him over the years at various Mercer, ACA and IAA events around the world – he will be missed.

Mr Andrew Vaughan

Such sad news but will keep lots of happy memories of Mark as a friend and colleague over many years. Enjoying a beer at the Blue Jays game after a hard week expert witnessing, plotting future PASL projects over a cup of coffee, commiserating when mutual football results didn't go the right way, always with a smile. Thanks Mark.

Mr Mike and Cat Hammer

Michaela and family, I am so sorry to hear Mark has passed away. I'll remember Mark as someone who was endlessly generous with his time and knowledge. He was always happy to help others. He was hugely proud of his family and was always talking about you.

Mr Robert Evans

Mark was a bright star in the actuarial firmament - extinguished before his time. He was a great colleague - wise, and clever as well as generous with his time. He was a consummate professional. He was also great fun as a colleague and a reat team player. His love for Michaela and the boys, and now the wider family, was always evident. Elizabeth and I enjoyed Michaela's and his company at many meals in far flung places around the world at international actuarial events. He will be sadly missed. Michaela and the family are in our thoughts and prayers.

Mr David Martin

In memory of a great guy, who was a great host and pleasure to have known. His sense of humour and his laugh will be remembered. He will be much missed.

Mr & Mrs Joanne & Darren Colderwood

So sorry to hear about Mark. He was such a kind and compassionate man; a pleasure to be around making me feel at ease when starting my actuarial career at Buck. Thinking of you all at this terribly sad time. Rochelle x

Miss Rochelle Lindley

I worked with Mark whilst he was at Buck and he was involved in my recruitment. A fun and truly genuine man and he will be sadly missed. Wishing the family strength and comfort in this awful time. James

Mr james forrest

Mark, I just want to say thank you, thank you for welcoming me to the family with open arms, thank you for all the amazing memories over the past few years, thank you for everything you've done for me and thank you for raising such an amazing son in Dan who I know will follow in your footsteps and be an amazing dad someday. You will be missed so very much, I hope you rest in peace.

Miss Abigail Marven

I was so sad and shocked to hear about Mark. He will be so missed by so many. It was a privilege to work closely with Mark at Buck and to continue our friendship after he left. Mark was always so proud of his family and clearly adored Michaela. A top man, always fun to be with. I will miss him lots.

Mr Mark Brind

I was very saddened to hear of Mark's passing and feel privileged to have worked with him. He was a fine role model and I will always remember his generous nature and passion for his work and colleagues at Buck.

Mr Steve Williams

I feel so privileged to have known and worked alongside Mark these last three years. He was a genuine and kind man. Best wishes,

Mr Richard Gibson

We have only known Mark & Michaela for a short time since buying our property in Spain, but we have had some good times out with Mark, always smiling and having a laugh. We will treasure our memories of him, our last just the beginning of October before he became ill. A meal out in Chelmsford, not the most successful evening, but the Manager argued with us, and Mark told him to go away, we will always smile about that evening out with you guys. New Years Eve in Spain was a good night also to remember, we will miss you Mark.

Mr & Mrs Wendy & Dave Pettican

I knew Mark through his governor role at school. He was a dedicated and humorous chair and he will be greatly missed by all the governors. My best wishes and condolences go to all his family for this terribly sad news.

Ms Catherine Gater

Such a sudden loss. Rest in peace Mark, my thoughts are with you and your family.

Mr James Cheeseman

To a lovely man mark. Gone too soon . Sending our condolences to Michaela , Ben , Daniel and Louis. Always in our hearts love Jackie Martin and Lewis xxx❤️

Mrs Jackie Page

I am so very sorry to hear the sad news that Mark has passed away. Thinking of the stocker family. Katie smith (Walker)

Mrs Katie Smith

Ben, I am so sorry for your loss. Pete

Mr Peter Kirkham

Michaela, we're thinking of you and the boys, Mark was a really good friend and will be sadly missed

Mr Navtej Bains

Words cannot express how much I will miss you we all will. Marks always welcomed me with open arms into the family looked out for me and always tried to make me smile. We will all miss you everyday of our lives Dylan will always know how much he was loved by his grandad. Xxxxx

Miss Danielle Bain

My thoughts are with all of you.

Miss Charlotte Tutton

Will miss your bright smile big fella. Sleep tight. Phil, Jo & Boys

Mr & Mrs Phil Cockram

A man with a big smile, always. Taken far too soon. Huge hugs and lots of love. Xxx

Miss Maxine Lambe

So very sad to hear the news of Mark. He was a lovely, gentle, kind man always smiling. May he rest in peace xxx

Mrs Kerry Freegard

My deepest sympathies for your sad loss. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. RIP Mark Sincerest condolences Kerry

Miss Kerry Phillips

Mark was a great boss, leader and above all friend. My deepest sympathies to Mark's family.

Mr Vishal Makkar

Mark was a wonderful chair of governors at Birchwood with a great sense of humour. We will miss him.

Dr Annie Swanepoel

Micheala and Family It was such shock to hear about the passing of Mark. We worked together for number years in two tranches. We started as actuarial students together and then were back together at Buck. He was a kind and supportive colleague and we managed to have some fun along the way. He will be sorely missed. Deborah and I send our deepest sympathies to you at this tragic time and hope you can gain strength from all the happy memories you had together. You are all in our thoughts. Martin & Deborah

Mr Martrin Rawe

Mark was a true gentleman and a proud family man, always smiling and entertaining. Sending you all our love at this difficult time. From Daniel, Claire and Jacob

Mr Daniel Edmunds

Michaela, you don't need us to tell you what a devoted husband and father Mark was. He was also a funny and loyal friend who we will miss so much. We'll treasure our memories of him, especially dancing our hearts out at Rewind festival!

Mr & Mrs Sue & t Eyre